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Saturday 22 February 2014

Listen & learn: 10 ways to play hard-to-get like a seasoned pro

Listen & learn: 10 ways to
play hard-to-get like a
seasoned pro
Women’s lib may be a great thing and making the
first move could be perceived as hot, but
remember that most men love a good challenge.
So, once you’ve trapped your prey, relax, sit
back, wait and watch the show.
Revel in your singlehood : Coming across as desperate,
needy and dying to be in a relationship (any
relationship) is a huge turn-off. Instead, show the world
— and especially the target you’re playing hard-to-get
for — that being single has its advantages. That girls
just wanna have fun, and you know exactly how to.
Let him make the first move : Women’s lib may be a
great thing and making the first move could be
perceived as hot, but remember that most men love a
good challenge. So, once you’ve trapped your prey,
relax, sit back, wait and watch the show.
Flirt with others : A little harmless flirting with a couple
of other boys in the entourage will definitely make you
seem all the more appealing. Remember the forbidden
fruit theory. Of course, ensure you don’t lead them on
too much and stay concentrated on the object of your
attention.
Up those confidence levels : Nervousness and insecurity
aren’t exactly the keys to getting a man… or anything
else in life for that matter. Try being more self-sure
without coming across as aggressive/cocky, and it’ll
soon become second nature to your personality.
Act like a man: According to the study which found that
playing hard to get does work, the three methods men
used were “acting snooty or rude”, “saying all the right
things but not calling” and “treating others like s#@t”.
Well, if that’s really how men think, they probably
deserve a taste of their own medicine.
Don’t be “too” available: In these hyper-connected
times (landlines, cell phones, email, social media…),
less is definitely more. Don’t give away too many
details early on. Let him “earn” them… one at a time.
Don’t cling: This is probably one of the biggest man-
repellents since time immemorial. Asking too many
questions creeps out the guys and turns the mysterious
into the mundane. Give that inner journalist/detective a
break.
Don’t dress like a tart : Women exist in two broad
categories for most men — the take-home-to-mommy
kind and the take-home-to-bed kind. While you’d
definitely like to be the latter, you need to concentrate
on being the former first. You can subtly make the
transition soon after.
Stop the game when you get serious : Like in the case
with any game, you must know when to stop. Stop,
once you realise that the two of you have something
solid and that you’ve tamed him enough. Grrr!

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